Mother’s Day is coming up this weekend so I thought I would offer all the Mom’s of ADDers some encouragement and advice. I’m not by any means an expert on the matter, but I do have several years of experience under my belt. So here ya go –
- Take care of yourself. If your running on empty, you won’t have much energy to give and more than likely won’t have the patience needed to do life with an ADDer.
- Don’t be too hard on yourself. Doing life with an ADDer can be exhausting and draining. We all lose our cool once in a while. Apologize, move on and do better next time.
- Lower your expectations. YES! Lower them. ADDers are typically 3-5 years behind their peers developmentally. It is so easy to look at other girls/boys your daughter/son’s age and wonder why your child doesn’t act the same. Do yourself and your ADDer and favor and accept him for where he is right now developmentally. And remind yourself of this fact as often as needed. I know I have to!
- You know your child best. Out of all the advice you will receive about parenting your ADDer, remember that YOU know him/her more than anyone!! What may work for someone else may not work for your child.
- Hang on to the positive moments and bask in their warmth. We often hear more negatives than positives about our ADDers. So when one of those positives comes along, dwell on, enjoy it and let it fill you with joy. We all love the little peeks of light at the end of the tunnel.
- Gather up as much information as you can. Knowledge is power! If you haven’t signed up for Pocket yet, than I recommend you do so! Pocket allows you to save any article or piece of information you may find on the internet in one safe place. I love it and refer to it often. There’s an app for your phone and a pocket button you can add to your browser. Any article or tidbit of information you find on ADHD can be “pocketed” for future reference.
- Love and encourage your ADDer DAILY. They need it! Dr. Edward Hallowell says, “More than most people, people with ADD blossom under the warmth of praise.”
- Give yourself a pat on the back – you’re doing a great job, Mom!