In last week’s post, one thing I wanted you to take away was the intensity at which an ADDer reacts or responds is the intensity that he/she is feeling the emotion. Oh the joy of ADHD emotions! I want to emphasize this because it was something I didn’t know until I started my ADHD coach training. I have experienced my own son’s emotional meltdowns over things that, to me seemed trivial. I knew it was part of his ADHD but didn’t realize he was experiencing the emotion as strong as he was presenting it. Have you ever wondered why your ADDer over reacts to things? What may seem trivial to us, seems like such a big deal to them. ADDers experience life more intensely than we do, because their brains can’t filter all the information they are receiving. Think back to a time when your ADDer’s reaction to something caught you completely off guard. Now put yourself in their shoes and imagine living with that intensity in your head and body all.the.time. Does it give you some compassion? ADDers have so much more to manage and regulate than you and I do. Can you imagine the amount of energy that takes? And to top it all off, the areas of the brain that help with regulation are the very areas of the ADHD brain that are lacking. I won’t go into detail in this post about the differences found in the ADHD brain through various studies. I’m still learning all this myself, and I do want to keep my blog posts simple. If you are interested in more information on the ADHD brain please reply to this post and let me know. In the meantime, Dr. Russell A. Barkley’s book Taking Charge of ADHD, is a great resource. Just know that research has shown the areas of the brain that control emotion are actually smaller and less developed in children with ADHD. Do you notice your ADDer living with intense emotions? If so, how do you handle those situations?